Untraditional Traditions

I do not think of myself as traditional. My style is a bit bohemian, artsy, and I would even say funky. So, Thanksgiving, a traditional holiday, does not exactly align with my style. The traditional foods that you see at Thanksgiving- turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, pumpkin pie, cranberry sauce- will not be making an appearance on my dinner table this year.

I am a big fan of mashed potatoes and stuffing, but I have disdain for turkey! I use to enjoy eating turkey, but for some reason in my thirties, I developed an aversion to it. The gross feeling I felt when preparing a turkey whenever I hosted Thanksgiving may have caused that aversion. To accommodate those, like myself who would not eat turkey, I always would make a roast or meatballs as well.

Sometimes, holidays can be difficult. My Thanksgivings were always filled with plenty of food, good conversation, and laughter. Then, in 1998, I started to dislike Thanksgiving.

My mom passed away in October of 1998. So, one month later, I was still sad and I did not want to celebrate Thanksgiving. Celebrating Thanksgiving just would not be the same without my mom. That year, and for a few years after, my family went to a restaurant to celebrate Thanksgiving. Overtime, different family members and myself have hosted the meal.

To this day I am not a fan of celebrating Thanksgiving. I am not quite sure why. It might have to do with not having my parents here to help celebrate or that this holiday revolves around turkey. Thanksgiving and I just do not get along; so, I was not upset when I missed two Thanksgiving celebrations due to chemotherapy side effects.

I do not want to portray a negative attitude because there are still some wonderful parts to holidays. I always enjoy getting family and friends together to share a meal and each other’s company. But, I feel you do not need a holiday to get friends and family together! I love to entertain, and host many parties throughout the year for the sole reason of bringing family and friends together.

This year I will be hosting Thanksgiving once again at my home. I enjoy cooking, but you won’t find a turkey or traditional sides on my table (my guests seem fine with my decision)!

I am ready for the holiday and have much to be thankful for. I get to spend time with my daughter, Michaela, who is home from college. I am excited to have her home, even if it is only for a few days.

So, while I am not a big fan of this holiday, it is the holiday for giving thanks. This year I am very thankful that I am feeling well, and that I will have my family all together. I am also thankful to all you beautiful Mermaids for your continued support and allowing me to share my journey with you. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!